When To Give Photos Of Your Ex The Kiss Off
Q: Curtis wanted to know the statute of limitations on photos of exes. Mostly because the ones he has drives his new girlfriend nuts. She hates it. In fact, when he called The Cooper and Anthony Show, he mentioned, “it drives her nuts” several times. He wanted to know, is she being unreasonable or is he being a dick?
A: Our Dr. Cooper told him: Sounds like you enjoy that it makes her nuts. The way you said it and the fact that you said it more than once. On one hand you like having the photos up there because they don’t mean anything to you but they serve as a reminder that your girlfriend is really into you
Studies show that evoking jealousy is like a secret test. You gauge your partner’s commitment based on their response to jealousy. And I say that because you KNOW it bothers her but instead of just taking them down, because what purpose do they serve? You called us, because you want to know why you’re playing this game with her, so we’ll tell you
Her asking you to take down photos of you and your ex looking happy on social media is a totally normal reaction so why wouldn’t you just do that? Most people take down those photos once they’re in a new relationship. Social media is about signaling to the world what you’re doing in your life at this particular time. What you’re saying is “i’m still into my ex”
It’s like soft marketing. What you need to be marketing about yourself to the world is….The product we’re selling is Curtis and Jane, we’ve discontinued Curtis and Lisa.
That said, we get that deciding when to delete photos of your ex on social media is a personal choice that depends on various factors and your own comfort level. Here’s some other stuff it depends on:
New relationships
This is the main reason to say bye-bye to the two of you white water rafting on your tenth date. If you’re entering a new relationship or dating someone new, it’s generally considerate to remove or limit the visibility of past relationship pics to avoid potential discomfort or misunderstandings. It’s also super disrespectful to be building something new while you’re saying to the world, “Look how hot me and my ex used to be.” As we said to Curtis, social media is like marketing yourself to the world. Who do you want people to see you as?
Emotional healing
If seeing the photos of your ex on social media brings back painful memories or hinders your emotional healing process, it might be time to remove or archive those photos. Keeping reminders of the past can sometimes make it harder to move on.
Closure
Deleting photos can symbolize a sense of closure and signify that you’re ready to move forward. If you’ve already processed the breakup and feel that removing the photos will contribute to your personal growth, it may be the right time to do so.
Mutual agreement
If you and your ex have had a conversation about removing photos or have mutually agreed to do so, it can be a positive step in moving on and respecting each other’s boundaries.
Personal preference
Ultimately, the decision should be based on your own comfort level and what feels right to you. Some people may choose to keep the photos as a part of their personal history, while others may find it more liberating to remove them entirely.
Remember that social media is a public platform, and once you post something, it can be challenging to control its circulation. Consider your privacy and the impact on your emotional well-being when deciding whether to delete or keep photos of your ex on social media. But also consider the feelings of your new partner and what you’re saying to the world.
