Talking Dirty In Bed 101
Abby called the show because her boyfriend thinks its hot when she talks dirty, but she isn’t good at it and she feels super awkward. Dr. Cooper told her she has several options.
- She can ask him when they’re not having sex what kinds of things turn him on. Maybe even ask what, specifically, does he want to hear
- But if she’s uncomfortable with that, she can start with just describing what’s actually happening but do it using dirty words, or instruct him what you want him to do
- The important thing is to say it in a low sexy voice. If you think about it, actually anything you say in a low sexy voice can be dirty talk, like “I love cream in my coffee”…so its the voice that makes the difference. Because the opposite is also true, if you say dirty things in a regular way that’s not going to work
WHAT TO KNOW WHEN IT COMES TO TALKING DIRTY IN BED:
You don’t have to be Danielle Steel or Toni Morrison, keep it simple, just say whats happening, ask for what you want and keep your voice low and sexy
Learning how to talk dirty in bed can add a new dimension to your sexual experiences with your partner. Dirty talk can heighten arousal, increase intimacy, and lead to more intense and satisfying orgasms. However, if you’re new to it, it can be intimidating, awkward and uncomfortable.
Here are some more tips from Dr. Cooper on how to talk dirty in bed:
1. Start slow: Begin with simple and easy phrases that won’t make you feel awkward. For example, telling your partner how much you want them or how good they feel inside you can be a great way to start.
2. Listen to your partner: Pay attention to your partner’s reactions and listen to their responses. This can help you gauge what words or phrases they respond to and what they don’t like.
3. Use descriptive language: Instead of using crude or vulgar language, use descriptive language to describe what you’re feeling or what you want to do. For example, instead of saying “I want to f-you hard,” say “I want to feel your body against mine.”
4. Be confident: Dirty talk is all about confidence. If you feel awkward or uncomfortable, it’s going to come through in your voice. Be confident in what you’re saying and don’t be afraid to experiment and try new things.
5. Communicate boundaries: It’s important to communicate boundaries with your partner. Discuss what words or phrases are off-limits and make sure you’re both comfortable with what’s being said.
6. Practice makes perfect: Like anything else, practice makes perfect. The more you talk dirty, the more comfortable you’ll become and the better you’ll get at it.
