How Can I Go To An Orgy If I’m Allergic To Beeswax?
Q: Kristin has an interesting question for The Cooper and Anthony Show about orgies and chapstick because she’s allergic to bees and beeswax. She’s worried that at her first swingers party there will be people there who have used beeswax products like chapstick. So how will she deal with an orgy situation since she can’t kiss anyone or receive oral sex if they are wearing chapstick or any kink of lip products that contains beeswax. How does she deal with this?
A: Our Dr. Cooper has been to her share of sex parties. She, of course, had an answer. She said: Sex parties and orgies aren’t like in the movies where its just piles of people having sex with each other indiscriminately and you just jump in like its double dutch jump rope. Not even close.
CONSENT IS THE ORDER OF THE DAY AT ORGIES
People approach each other, and they get verbal consent, it’s the NUMBER ONE rule.they say, “Would you like to join us?” or some version of “Can I touch you?” Then when they do ask, that is your opportunity. You can say, “Yes, but I have to ask, are you wearing chapstick, I have a severe beeswax allergy.” And carry some sort of baby wipe or make up remover wipe with you (or whatever you use to take it off sufficiently) and ask them if they would mind.
Nobody will think that’s weird. People have personal rules and they are expected to assert them in those environments.
2 OTHER ORGY RULES FOR YOU
Two more pieces of advice:
- Don’t get too drunk. You should have one to relax but getting drunk at a sex party is always a big mistake. You are more likely to do something you regret, consent to something you might not be into or worse for you…kiss someone who is wearing chapstick
- Don’t take rejection personally. Rejection is part of the territory. You don’t know if you remind someone of their ex, you’re just not their type or you’re too much their type and they don’t want that.
4 TIPS IN DEALING WITH ALLERGIES AND SEX
- Open Communication: It’s important to be open and honest about your allergies. Mentioning your allergy to beeswax is a responsible way to ensure any sexual situation is aware of any potential issues.
- Before the Date: If possible, you can send a light-hearted text before the date, like, “Hey, looking forward to our date! Just so you know, I’m allergic to beeswax, so if you’re into chapstick, that’s a hard pass in case we hit it off”
- During the Date: If the topic of chapstick or kissing comes up naturally, you can use humor to address your allergy during the meet up. Like, “btw, my kisses are allergen-free. Can’t let those sneaky beeswax molecules ruin the romance!”
- Carry Medication: Always carry any necessary medication with you, such as an antihistamine or an epinephrine auto-injector (if your allergy is severe). This will help you feel more secure in case of accidental exposure.
