How To Date A Dominatrix Without Becoming Her Slave
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Q: Bradley told The Cooper and Anthony Show he had a problem. He said he is into the dominatrix lifestyle, but he’s not into becoming a slave to a dominatrix. In fact, he tried to be a submissive and it turned him right off! Instead, he would like to be an equal partner to a dom where she has her job and her life and he is simply the boyfriend. But where would he find women like that without seeming creepy?
A: Its not like dating strippers where there are thousands of them in every city and you meet them how you meet them, or on dating sites since like dominatrices, they are usually the object of desire for many men. It’s not unusual to want to date a stripper or someone in the BDSM community. You’ll have some competition. The best you can do this is go on to a dating site and say exactly that, exactly what you told us. You have an interest in women who are professional dominatrices and that you are not a sub but an equal who enjoys the lifestyle.
DATING A DOM IS NOT A FETISH FOR THEM
Dominatrices tend to be very wary of men who want to date them and who are into their lifestyle without actually being a part of the community. It could mean that you fetishize them and the lifestyle without actually being a part of it. That could mean you don’t see them as individuals, as people, but see them as what they do. It’s like wanting to date a chef because you like food. Who doesn’t? So, what’s in it for them?
WHERE WOULD YOU EVEN MEET A DOM?
There are after hours bars and clubs in ever city where people who work in the BDFSM and dungeon life go to let off steam at the end of their shifts, so, that would be a good place to start. You probably should also start hanging around in the kink community to get to know people and to get invited to non-BDSM parties.
IF YOU CAN’T DATE ‘EM, JOIN ‘EM!
If you like the lifestyle, maybe you should consider becoming a dom-daddy, a dominant, a male version of a dominatrix. Then you truly will be an equal to her and a real part of the community. Or go work in a dungeon, start by mopping the floor, fixing the racks, whatever. Become part of the lifestyle yourself.
