When Rejection Gets You Sexually Aroused
Q: Brigit is attracted to guys she has to chase and she thinks its a kink. She gets sexually aroused, even with a partner who doesn’t want her, or pretends to not want her. It gets her even hotter when he doesn’t want to have sex. She asked The Cooper and Anthony Show, what kink is this?
A: This would fall into a sort of rejection kink or humiliation kink in that this kind of rejection stimulates the parts of the brain associated with motivation, reward, addiction, and cravings. This is why break ups make us want to stay connected to the person who dumped us. Our brain says, “game on” but for most of us we are sad about it. But for you, its a turn on. That’s what makes it a kink.
It’s also part of a humiliation kink in that when someone rejects you, something tells you that you’re a piece of garbage and they are superior. There is a sub/dom component as well. You are beneath, below, less than and therefore do not deserve sex.
A “rejection kink” refers to a specific fetish or sexual interest where an individual finds pleasure or arousal in the act of being rejected or denied in a sexual or romantic context. This means that the person may derive satisfaction from scenarios where they are turned down, dismissed, or denied sexual advances or romantic advances. It’s important to note that like any other kink or fetish, this is a consensual and mutually agreed-upon activity between adults.
CONSENT IS STILL IMPORTANT
As with any aspect of sexuality, it’s crucial to communicate openly with a partner and establish clear boundaries and consent. If you’re interested in exploring this kink, make sure to discuss it with your partner(s) and ensure that everyone involved is comfortable and consenting. Always prioritize communication, trust, and respect in any sexual activity.
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