How Can We Have Children If We Enjoy Loud Sex?
Q: Ginny called The Cooper and Anthony Show because her boyfriend is about to propose. That all sounds great, but the problem is that they enjoy very loud sex. They were once kicked out of a hotel for it and uninvited to a family weekend. He told her he wants kids, but she’s asking how could you possibly continue having loud sex once you have kids in the house? Will she have to give up the kind sex she prefers?
A: If you want to continue to have loud sex whenever you want without having to worry about being quiet for anybody, kids or whomever, then thats your priority . . . and your prerogative.
This is almost like a matching libido thing. It’s all about what your priorities are and what you are willing to give up in order to have what you want the most. Both of you. Does it match?
He is willing to sacrifice steady loud sex in order to be a father. That’s his priority.
TO KID OR NOT TO KID
You and your potential husband need to be on the same page, especially with regards to having kids no matter the reasons.
I think you need to be honest about your desire whether or not to have kids. Are you using loud sex—or simply a good sex life—as an excuse and you really don’t want kids but you’re not willing to say it? Or are you not in a place in your life right now to even think about kids but someday you might want them? Most people outgrow the need to have loud, crazy sex; but if that’s not you, it’s not you.
So, be honest with yourself and then be honest with him. Because if you definitely don’t want kids and he definitely does, your relationship will not go the distance—it simply will not work.
