These four DON’Ts are your bible

If you do nothing else, follow these four rules:

1. Don’t catch feelings- in either direction
2. Don’t do too much “couples” stuff.
3. Don’t take them to work or family events as your date.
4. Don’t ever post about them on social media.

Then you need to master some other skills to keep it totally casual.

Prioritize time management: Balancing multiple relationships can be demanding but there are seven nights a week for play and weekend afternoon delight options as well. How you allocate your time and energy to ensure that each person feels valued and important is key. Sometimes you meet a woman who just wants sex, so, that’s a no-brainer. But when you’re casually dating, some ladies like a date before sex or sex before dinner. Either way, you’re gonna have to make some time.

Practice discretion: While it’s essential to be honest and let the women in your life know up front that you’re not looking for “the one” and you just want to have casual sex, it’s also important to maintain the privacy of the women involved. Be cautious about sharing details or personal information that could jeopardize anyone’s privacy or well-being. Like, don’t tell one girl about another and don’t ask advice about other women. It’s crude and makes you look desperate.

Set clear expectations: This is a biggie. You have to manage expectations right away. It’s ok to just want sex. Women just want sex too. Make sure you communicate your intentions early on and make sure everyone understands that you’re looking for a casual relationship. It’s important to be honest and upfront about your desires to avoid any misunderstandings and drama later.

Avoid excessive emotional intimacy: While it’s natural to build a connection with someone you’re dating or banging, this isn’t the beginning of something. It is the something. So, try to keep a certain emotional distance. And by that we mean, limit sharing deep personal information and avoid becoming overly involved in each other’s lives. Focus more on enjoying each other’s company in the present moment. No talk about the future or the past. It’s all about what’s right now.

Maintain personal boundaries: Establish and maintain boundaries that align with your desire for a casual relationship. This may include avoiding excessive time spent together, like one of the “don’ts” says, no work parties or weddings or anything where you’ll be “a couple.” Keep your personal lives separate.

Regularly reassess your feelings: Take time to check in on yourself and your emotions. You may be catching feelings and if it’s mutual and you’re ready to drop the other four, that’s on you.  But if you find yourself becoming more attached, it may be necessary to reevaluate the situation and consider whether continuing the casual relationship is still the right choice for you.