Maybe It’s Time You Got A Vasectomy
Q: Milly is 30 and engaged and doesn’t want kids. Neither does her guy. He freaked out about getting a vasectomy, but why should she get metal shoved into her cervix when he could do this and end their issue?
A: Women have always had to be in charge of birth control and it’s time for that bs to end. A woman who doesn’t want to get pregnant can take a pill, or wear a patch or insert a hormone-filled ring into her vagina. or hormone-secreting implants inserted into her arm or her uterus, or a copper IUD inserted. She can get a shot. She can use a spermicide-soaked sponge – a diaphragm a cervical cap If all of that fails, she can use the morning-after pill, or have irreversible surgery to get her tubes tied.
The responsibility for contraception has historically fallen on women due to the fact that women bear the physical burden of pregnancy and childbirth. Contraceptive methods have traditionally focused on women because they directly target female reproductive processes.
What do men have? Men can use condoms, or they can get a reversible vasectomy. That’s about it.
The idea that birth control is always the responsibility and the expense for women is not OK. It’s time for men to step up, and to take responsibility for birth control, especially your fiance. His minor discomfort, inconvenience, and expense …wah. We have zero sympathy for him. Anthony stepped up and had a vasectomy and said it was no big deal.
We think you insist he get a vasectomy and if not, go ahead and use condoms until menopause.
Vasectomy is a surgical procedure that involves cutting or blocking the vas deferens, the tubes that carry sperm from the testes. It is a highly effective permanent form of contraception for men. However, it is a more invasive procedure compared to some of the contraceptive methods available to women, which may be one reason why it is not as commonly chosen.
The decision regarding contraception is a personal one and should ideally involve open and honest communication between both sexual partners. It’s important for both men and women to discuss their options and make an informed decision that takes into account factors such as effectiveness, convenience, potential side effects, and personal preferences. But it is time for women to not have the sole responsibility and expense of it all.
