Sex On The First Date Or Make Them Wait?
One of our favorite discussions on The Cooper and Anthony Show is how long should you wait to have sex with a new partner. Anthony thinks you should make a guy wait. The whole cow, milk, free scenario. Cooper says, why wait? She likes to get that out of the way. Even before dinner. People have varying opinions on this and there’s no one correct answer, it’s definitely a personal choice.
But there is some research.
However…what constitutes a “date?”
Scientists aren’t even on board yet with which specific “date “is the most common for people to start having sex. Mainly because the meaning of “date” has changed so much. A lot of people don’t do the one-on-one thing. They go out as a group, even with someone they’re interested in. So, does going out with a group of friends count? Also, how is “dating” different from “talking” or “hanging out” with someone?
Here’s how long people in this study waited.
A study published in the Journal of Sex Research where they talked to 11,000 unmarried people in a serious relationships 51% said they waited a few weeks before having sex, while 38% had sex either on the first date or within the first couple of weeks. But a whopping 11% got it out of the way, or we should say, gave in to the sexual chemistry and then decided they liked the person, so they had sex before they even went on their first date!
Ultimately, it’s up to you.
When it comes to deciding how long to wait before having sex with a new partner, there is no one-size-fits-all answer. The timing should ultimately depend on the comfort, trust, and communication between both individuals involved. Some people may feel ready to engage in sexual intimacy early on, while others prefer to establish a deeper emotional connection before taking that step. It’s essential to have open and honest conversations about boundaries, expectations, and desires with your partner. By discussing your comfort levels and understanding each other’s needs, you can make an informed decision about when the right time is for both of you to engage in a sexual relationship.
It’s important to remember that there is no right or wrong timeline for having sex with a new partner. Society often puts pressure on individuals to conform to certain expectations, but it’s crucial to prioritize your own feelings and desires. Building a foundation of trust, respect, and emotional connection is vital before becoming sexually intimate, as it can enhance the overall experience and strengthen the bond between partners. Taking the time to get to know each other, establishing open lines of communication, and ensuring both parties are comfortable and enthusiastic about taking the next step can contribute to a positive and fulfilling sexual relationship. Ultimately, it’s about finding a pace that feels right for both individuals involved, taking into account their values, preferences, and levels of emotional readiness.
